Emotional Breakdown of Parents When child Goes to School

                   It’s a huge emotional wrench when your child goes to school for the first time. However much you think you may have prepared for your child’s first day of school, both emotionally and practically, walking away from the school without a squidgy little hand in yours is hard.

                  It’s a very natural for a mother to go through this phase. Its just a small phase where you “as a mother” goes through emotional Breakdown. When my daughter started school it wasn't her who cried. It was me. The sight of that small person vanishing into an unknown classroom was desperately painful. I couldn't understand it. I had prepared for my daughter’s adjustment to school. But I hadn't anticipated the feelings of grief that swept over me during those first few weeks. I felt I'd lost her.

What is exactly mean by emotional breakdown-

                  A Emotional breakdown is a term used to describe a period of intense mental distress. During this period, you’re unable to function in your everyday life.

According to Expert, There are bound to be tears and emotion on the first day of school - and that’s just you,” says Ellie Gibson, Mother of 2 child And The Scummy Mummies comedy duo who host a podcast for parents.

As a Mother there’s no right way to feel or behave on your child’s first day at school. You may find it super emotional, you may not. If u give some time to yourself you can overcome from this anxiety.

Things should be taken care for Parents-

            When your child start his/her first school you should prepare for yourself so that your child along with you can settle emotions smoothly. There are few things which parents should take care-

Give time to yourself-

             This the best way to deal with your emotions. Give yourself some alone time to be emotional. It’s natural and expected to be experiencing a wave of emotions as your little one ready to head to school for the first time, and it’s important to honor your feelings. You can cry in your comforted place or you can share feelings with your loved ones so that you can feel empty.

Focus on your ‘me’ time-

            

              Since the moment you found out you were expecting, all of your attention (and your time, energy, love, sweat, tears) have been hyper-focused on your baby. Guess what? That baby is now a full-fledged duckling, heading off to start exploring the world outside of your home for the first time. And now, with extra hours on your hands between 8 a.m. and 3 p.m., you can turn your attention inwards, for the first time in a long time.

           “You can now have more personal time to take care of yourself and catch up on things and people that you didn’t have time for before,” explains Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D, a Los-Angeles based psychologist. “You need to realize that by letting your child progress developmentally in kindergarten, you can have time to be more than just a ‘mom’ and may even become a better mom because you’re leading a more balanced life.”

Encourage to your Child to Independent-

                 We won’t lie to you, throughout your kid’s first year of school, you’ll watch them change. They’ll become more confident, come home telling you stories from the classroom and they’ll do their activities by themselves. And while you’ll be thrilled to see them, you’ll also struggle to accept they’re not your super-dependent baby anymore.

                “Parents are more likely to struggle with this adjustment when they deny that their own role as mom or dad is also changing. Not only is the child’s world evolving as they grow, but the parent’s world is also changing. Accepting this reality is key,” Dr. Pletter says. Remember, mama, your tough gal and your sweet boy will only continue to explore new worlds, have adventures, and expand their minds. But no matter where they roam—even those not-so-scary elementary school hallways—they’ll always love their mom

Don’t be too hard to yourself-

                   First rule of parenting (that’s often the one that takes the longest time to learn)? Resist the reflex to judge other parents—and that includes yourself. If you’re not feeling super sad about your child going to kindergarten? Normal. If you are mildly freaking out? Also normal. Dr. O’Leary explains the more pressure you put on yourself to mold into a specific bucket, the more stressful the transition will feel. “Every parent experiences the hallmarks of growing up differently. Accept your emotions and keep in mind there’s no single right way to step into the role of kindergarten mom,” she reminds.

Try To Stay Busy-

                   There is old saying, “An idle mind is a dangerous thing.” If you have younger children, you may be able to more easily distract yourself by tending to their needs than a mom of an only child, but you’ll still feel your babe’s absence. Dr. O’Leary says one of the most effective ways to maintain your sanity—and slowly release your control-freak tendencies!—is to keep yourself occupied. “The hardest way to pass time is to stare at the clock and wait until the school day is over. If you’re home, take on a project or plan to spend some time with a friend. If you’re at work, focus on the task at hand and try to avoid repeatedly checking your phone,” she says. After a long break you can continue your hobby, you can get back to your favorite passion. This way you can keep busy to yourself.

                   These are the few points you can try when u will feel down.as I already said it’s a natural for mom to be emotional.as she has spended whole day/night with their kid.and sudden change makes her down.Dont cry Mom.its just a school.